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Juran …..Assamese Wedding Rituals

December 9, 2009
Well lets get ready for JURAN a very interesting,fun filled pre marriage ceremony carried out one or two days before the wedding.It is going to be a long post even though i have tried to keep it as trimmed as possible.This ritual is performed by women.Here the groom’s mom visits  the bride’s house accompanied  by close relatives and friends.A function like this takes a lot of time and effort..Groom’s mother gifts  the bride a lot many things on this day  right from the MAIN BRIDAL TROUSSEAU including an odd number of pairs of Mekhela Chadar(traditional assamese female attire,three piece in case of the main trousseau and two piece in case of an average) to  a complete make up kit(whoa),scented hair oil,a perfume,golden ornaments,sindoor(vermilion),a mirror,hair brush or comb etc.For other rituals two sets of things like coconut,doi(yougurt),two earthen pots filled with rice grains,a big fat fish,sweets or mithais,tamul and tamul paan bunch(betel leaves and nuts),haldi and urad daal for another ritual(it is used to bathe the bride and the groom at a later ritual).Once they reach the bride’s house the groom’s mom is welcomed by the bride’s mom at the gate with a XORAI or BOTA in her hands which contains tamul-paan covered by a Gamosa.Some welcome the groom’s mom by using a hand fan or bisoni and some using two paan leaves as shown here.Ajoli aunty(groom’s mom) is being welcomed by Runjun’s(bride’s pet name) mom.My m.i.l and my husband attended this ceremony ….bride’s home is in Tejpur a place four hours away from Guwahati.
Once inside the pandhal(tent),groom’s side places a mat or a carpet on the floor which they bring along.A lamp and incense sticks are lighted(this too is brought by groom’s side) .The groom’s mom spreads few rice grains on the mat while the other ladies sing BIYA NAAM(weeding songs) and chant ULUNI(a traditional sound made by the women by rolling their tongue in their mouth….Sujata and Aparna i think you know what exactly it is).The bride arrives – her face and head covered by chadar ,she is accompanied by her friends and relatives.She sits near the groom’s mom or from now on her mom-in-law.Aunty applied sindoor by using a ring to the bride’s forehead and the hair parting.From now on she wears sindoor…if i am right Assam is the only place where a girl sports sindoor before her actual wedding takes place.Now the fun part begins……….
TEL-DIYA(tel means oil,diya means apply)…here aunty placed a bettle nut on bride’s head over which the scented oil was applied on her parting thrice(she was extra careful not to disturb the bride’s hair setting).
Now aunty and a couple of other ladies made the bride wear all the ornaments they had brought….i omitted those pictures because post was getting extra long) .The make up kit is opened ,little make up just for the name sake is applied ,scent is applied too -once done aunty took out the main Bridal- Trousseau which is always a white and golden mekhela chadar and reeha set and presented it to the bride as you can see here in this picture.The bride is shown her face on the looking mirror which groom’s mom brings.But the bride is not allowed to carry this mirror along with her to the groom’s house after they get married.Don’t ask me why?It was very painful for me to part with mine as it was a silver framed beautiful mirror…now my sister has it..huh..
In the picture below you can see all the clothes,gifts,etc presented to the bride.Now the bride is made to touch all the things like coconut,betel nut/leaves,yogurt(doi),rice,fish,haldi-mah….all these things are equally divided in two parts one is left behind to the bride’s house another is carried back.The earthen pot is half filled by the rice grains given by the bride’s side.
Bride’s mom is gifted with a pair of Mekhela Chadar and a packet full of raw ingredients of a complete meal by the groom’s mom as a token of thanks and gratitude for looking after their daughter for all these years so as now she is ready to leave their house.Touchy na?
Now many families keep the ornaments on this Bota and show it to all the people present.Before the refreshments and the meal is served groom’s mom introduces the bride to all the elders and other people present …the bride touches the feet of the elders ,in return elders gift her with any ornaments or in many cases money too.After the lunch groom’s family returns back to their home..

 The next time when we meet i am going to tell you about Pani tula and the main marriage ceremony…till than take care. ….

Blog Updated :  Received this as a comment by reader Indrani Bordoloi .She says
Dear Indian Yarn,

In Assamese Culture white or off-white golden Baize mekhela -sador has very very significant role. Traditionally a married woman prefares to wear a white gold zari work assam silk mekhela sador only during anu Jurun ceremony of any bodies marriage. While again The Bridal Trousseau should be in white+gold combo for the actual wedding even I guess Assam is the only state where bride and bridegroom both wears the white golden costume for their actual wedding. Traditionally is believed that its glitters the colors like goldenish yellow which is a color of Vishnu or Krishna… typically Assamese follows Vaishnasim. interestingly in their wedding day the bride and the groom treats as Price and Princess also white reflects the symbol of purity and freshness significantly welcoming to their new life.

Well we have similarities wd Bengali Wedding becoz geographically again its our neighboring state.Like in Bengli have Kaal-ratri after the actual wedding we have Bahi-Biya where after the wedding when bride comes to grooms house the next day for the whole day nobody can see each others face, for the rest of the day or the next day when the Khuba-Khubuni will take place (Reception at grooms place)the following night is call Subha-Ratri or Madhu-milaan or 1st night πŸ™‚ Typically Yes the story of Beula-Lakhindaar has been believed that how Lakhindar dies after the snake bite on their 1st nyt and how Beula had go through tremendous pain and struggle to return his life back from Death God in West Bengal so being a neighboring state Assam also got influenced by the mythology and also it has been believed that after the wedding if none of the bride and groom can’t see each other for one whole day the chemistry sparks basically in arranged marriages and they eagerly waits for the first night where a understandable and compromising life can ahead with love and care.

Putting vermilion into brides forehead by MIL is again has significant in Assamese tradition only instead of the groom the grooms mother puts vermilion on brides forehead or some times in absence of MIL any elderly lady do that (aunts ~Grooms) significantly before the Jurun Ceremony where all the gift specially cloths and Jewelries suppose to gift the bride along with the bridal trousseau that she has to wear in actual wedding all these items groom has to touch signifies that “not only I’m marrying u ..but with good grace and god and elders I’m accepting u as my wife and my whole family members and other relatives are welcoming u to our home and family. In jurun ceremony groom can’t go or no young men are allowed to go accept very few elderly men from grooms side along with the ladies. Jurun is basically si ladies function.
Unlike Saree Mekhela-Sadors are in two pairs.

Kabita well written

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37 Comments
  1. This was really wonderfully interesting. I love seeing the marriage traditions of different cultures. This looks very elaborate and loving. It must be for the wealthier families since it might be difficult for a poorer family to carry out.

  2. @KAY..Thanks.The marriage i am sharing here was of an average upper medium class families…the marriages i attend here now a days are very lavish and loud but this particular marriage had all the true flavors of the original traditions.The poor people too do it too..the difference would be no. of pairs of clothes,ornaments but surprisingly a Juran at a village has much more guests comparing to that of a city one.

  3. Wow! Its so nice to read abt the weddings which take place in diff. part of our country.I hd been to a NE fair sometime bk and got a Mekhela Chadar and 2 Gamosas. I loved the intricate work in red on the white bkgrnd :)No pics from ur shaadi πŸ˜›

  4. It is too bad your sister has your mirror. Will she keep it forever or pass it to a relative or friend?Indian clothing is very colorful like Hawaiian clothes.Thanks for the great photos.

  5. Nice description kavi,loved it.Applying sindoor before marriage is new to me,never heard of this custom.The best part was bridegroom's mom gifting to brides mom and telling her thanks,before marriage they are treating the daughter-inlaw like a daughter,very touching.

  6. Wow…all these are quite new for me.Enjoyed reading the post .How many days does a wedding in Ammasm take?

  7. Very interesting read as always. In Kerala, we also have uluni called korava done by the ladies when the mangalsutra is tied and when bride enters grooms house. But the custom is dying a slow death. Fewer people do it nowadays.

  8. sounds a little like a bridal shower that we do here but much more elaborate…sure enjoyed reading your post-very enlightening.

  9. Amazing. I loved the post… u have explained everything in such great detail. Punjabis have a similar function called shagun and we marathis have shrimanti… a little differences here and there but the main motive of the ritual being exchange of gifts between the two families.

  10. Quite Intense!

  11. Very interesting and it looks like it takes a lot of time and preparation. Thanks for sharing.

  12. @SWARAM..Thanks.Assam is famous for its weaving,you must have noticed the fact in Mekhela Chadar and Gamosa you bought.GIGI..Heee,yes she is the sole proud owner of that mirror and she gets to keep it forever.Indians love to wear color just like Hawaiians.Even i love colorful clothes.@VARUNAVI..Thanks,when for the very first time i attended one such reception from the girl's side i was surprised to see the sindoor she was wearing as she was not yet married.Later when i was getting married it was explained to us by Chandan's family now mine too.

  13. @BHAVYA..Thanks.It takes 3-4 days combining all the ceremonies plus the reception.@HOLY LAMA..Thanks.I learned ULUNI because it is a must for any religious and any auspicious purpose out here.When i go back to Delhi my cousins and small kids ask me to make this sound and they all try to imitate me.I had no idea that it is chanted at your marriages too though i know Bengalis do it.@LIN..Thanks.Yes it is our Indian version of bridal shower.@PRIYANKA..Thanks,i know about Shagun but would love to know about Shimanti.@SUMANDEBRAY…Thanks.@PATTY..Thank you.

  14. That was so interesting…you described the entire ceremony in full detail…I think this is what makes our country special..every place has its own different customs and traditions…I am definitely going to keep up with this blog…:)

  15. Hi Kavita Di !! Sorry coming back after a long time !! Actually busy with Business and Friend's wedding.Indian weddings are really mind blasting.Full of fun and enjoyment.Unseen Rajasthan

  16. recalling our attendance to marriage parties in our five year stay at rdc…..i think without taking names the perio dept. marriage tops the list!!!! our exclusive invitation to the 3rd yrs.lol!!! what u say ????

  17. hii!those Asamese saris look just too classy πŸ˜€

  18. Good Tradition.. Hi friend this is vijay here.. ur doing a really good job.. can we exchange links..

  19. @DESTINY'S CHILD….Thanks.Welcome to our blog,please visit us always.@UNSEEN RAJASTHAN…Arree koi baat nahin,take your time.BTW,i saw those wedding pictures,great!!@AS…HELLO!!You are welcome here.This attire is called MEKHELA-CHADAR,it is a two piece clothing.Thanks for appreciating.@NITU JI….yeah,hey you got me all nostalgis.hmmmm,those were the days.Remember Sango's cousin's marriage haaaaa !!!@VIJAY…Thanks.Please explain.

  20. WOW!thats so very colorful event ….proud to be Indian ha?

  21. i noticed that many women are wearing white with gold thread saris. is there a special significance ? all these intense rituals happen when the bride and the groom are from the same town, isn't it ?I also see some similarities between bengali and assamese – from the pictures i see – is that correct.mekhala chadar also resembles the traditional clothing of what kerala syrian christian woman would wear – i am begining to wonder is it because of the geography of the land ?your "my room" is very interesting

  22. I don't know why you thought your post was too long. If it had been twice as long I would still have enjoyed it so much! What wonderful traditions and a wonderful culture. Thank you for sharing.

  23. Amazing. So informative.

  24. Another beautiful posting. I enjoy learning about your traditions. In America so many traditions seem to be dying out…

  25. interesting. now that i hav learned something new i can sleep in peace today!!

  26. How lovely!Namaste & Aloha, FriendComfort Spiral

  27. Thanks for visiting my blog and posting ur valuable comments…

  28. Your wedding ceremony rituals are so beautiful, Kavita. This is the first time I am hearing about sindhoor being placed on the parting of the bride's hair, before the actual wedding ceremony takes place and that too by the future MIL. The photos are very very beautiful, Kavita! Thanks for sharing.

  29. Hi All, I am planning to buy Mekhla Chadar for my wedding…..i am a north indian girl & getting married with an Assamese guy. In North, we wear Lehenga but in my marriage i'll b wearning Mekhla…..i am very excited also but very much confused as i don't know what color and design i'll get for the marriage. Can n e bdy suggest me with some websites where atleast i can see the design & colors of wedding mekhla.

  30. very interesting..didn't know this part of Indian wedding in Assam..pictures are so good..well connected to text..You could have written more..its not lengthy at all ..I don't know anything about Assamese traditions..its such an enlightenment ..and the best part is to see the pictures.. the place you belong..thanks for sharing..

  31. my brother is getting married to a assamese girl and this was d best i got so far about juran … πŸ™‚ thanks a ton… am heading back to get some more from ur blog…

  32. Thank u so much that it was really wonderful a and interesting

  33. well kavita baideu my non assamese girlfriend knew so much about the assamese wedding rituals after reading your blog, i ask my elders back home in asom not to cut short the rituals and it has to maintain traditionally and authentic way my wedding(which is on card soon). thank you so much.cheers,tridiba

  34. My fiancΓ© is from Guwahati.. We're not getting married for a few years, not until I can come to India, I know he wants a traditional Assamese wedding, but I'm a little confused about something, both my parents are dead, and I have no other relatives, and his mom is dead…. So how do we have this part of the ceremony? I would ask him about this, but I'm a little embarrassed to let tell him how little I know about this… If anyone can explain these things to me that would be greatThanks, Rhi..

  35. Dear Indian Yarn,In Assamese Culture white or off-white golden Baize mekhela -sador has very very significant role. Traditionally a married woman prefares to wear a white gold zari work assam silk mekhela sador only during anu Jurun ceremony of any bodies marriage. While again The Bridal Trousseau should be in white+gold combo for the actual wedding even I guess Assam is the only state where bride and bridegroom both wears the white golden costume for their actual wedding. Traditionally is believed that its glitters the colors like goldenish yellow which is a color of Vishnu or Krishna… typically Assamese follows Vaishnasim. interestingly in their wedding day the bride and the groom treats as Price and Princess also white reflects the symbol of purity and freshness significantly welcoming to their new life. Well we have similarities wd Bengali Wedding becoz geographically again its our neighboring state.Like in Bengli have Kaal-ratri after the actual wedding we have Bahi-Biya where after the wedding when bride comes to grooms house the next day for the whole day nobody can see each others face, for the rest of the day or the next day when the Khuba-Khubuni will take place (Reception at grooms place)the following night is call Subha-Ratri or Madhu-milaan or 1st night πŸ™‚ Typically Yes the story of Beula-Lakhindaar has been believed that how Lakhindar dies after the snake bite on their 1st nyt and how Beula had go through tremendous pain and struggle to return his life back from Death God in West Bengal so being a neighboring state Assam also got influenced by the mythology and also it has been believed that after the wedding if none of the bride and groom can't see each other for one whole day the chemistry sparks basically in arranged marriages and they eagerly waits for the first night where a understandable and compromising life can ahead with love and care. Putting vermilion into brides forehead by MIL is again has significant in Assamese tradition only instead of the groom the grooms mother puts vermilion on brides forehead or some times in absence of MIL any elderly lady do that (aunts ~Grooms) significantly before the Jurun Ceremony where all the gift specially cloths and Jewelries suppose to gift the bride along with the bridal trousseau that she has to wear in actual wedding all these items groom has to touch signifies that "not only I'm marrying u ..but with good grace and god and elders I'm accepting u as my wife and my whole family members and other relatives are welcoming u to our home and family. In jurun ceremony groom can't go or no young men are allowed to go accept very few elderly men from grooms side along with the ladies. Jurun is basically si ladies function. Unlike Saree Mekhela-Sadors are in two pairs. Kabita well written

  36. Dear Indian Yarn,In Assamese Culture white or off-white golden Baize mekhela -sador has very very significant role. Traditionally a married woman prefares to wear a white gold zari work assam silk mekhela sador only during anu Jurun ceremony of any bodies marriage. While again The Bridal Trousseau should be in white+gold combo for the actual wedding even I guess Assam is the only state where bride and bridegroom both wears the white golden costume for their actual wedding. Traditionally is believed that its glitters the colors like goldenish yellow which is a color of Vishnu or Krishna… typically Assamese follows Vaishnasim. interestingly in their wedding day the bride and the groom treats as Price and Princess also white reflects the symbol of purity and freshness significantly welcoming to their new life. Well we have similarities wd Bengali Wedding becoz geographically again its our neighboring state.Like in Bengli have Kaal-ratri after the actual wedding we have Bahi-Biya where after the wedding when bride comes to grooms house the next day for the whole day nobody can see each others face, for the rest of the day or the next day when the Khuba-Khubuni will take place (Reception at grooms place)the following night is call Subha-Ratri or Madhu-milaan or 1st night πŸ™‚ Typically Yes the story of Beula-Lakhindaar has been believed that how Lakhindar dies after the snake bite on their 1st nyt and how Beula had go through tremendous pain and struggle to return his life back from Death God in West Bengal so being a neighboring state Assam also got influenced by the mythology and also it has been believed that after the wedding if none of the bride and groom can't see each other for one whole day the chemistry sparks basically in arranged marriages and they eagerly waits for the first night where a understandable and compromising life can ahead with love and care. Putting vermilion into brides forehead by MIL is again has significant in Assamese tradition only instead of the groom the grooms mother puts vermilion on brides forehead or some times in absence of MIL any elderly lady do that (aunts ~Grooms) significantly before the Jurun Ceremony where all the gift specially cloths and Jewelries suppose to gift the bride along with the bridal trousseau that she has to wear in actual wedding all these items groom has to touch signifies that "not only I'm marrying u ..but with good grace and god and elders I'm accepting u as my wife and my whole family members and other relatives are welcoming u to our home and family. In jurun ceremony groom can't go or no young men are allowed to go accept very few elderly men from grooms side along with the ladies. Jurun is basically si ladies function. Unlike Saree Mekhela-Sadors are in two pairs. Kabita well written !!

  37. Dear Indian Yarn,In Assamese Culture white or off-white golden Baize mekhela -sador has very very significant role. Traditionally a married woman prefares to wear a white gold zari work assam silk mekhela sador only during anu Jurun ceremony of any bodies marriage. While again The Bridal Trousseau should be in white+gold combo for the actual wedding even I guess Assam is the only state where bride and bridegroom both wears the white golden costume for their actual wedding. Traditionally is believed that its glitters the colors like goldenish yellow which is a color of Vishnu or Krishna… typically Assamese follows Vaishnasim. interestingly in their wedding day the bride and the groom treats as Price and Princess also white reflects the symbol of purity and freshness significantly welcoming to their new life. Well we have similarities wd Bengali Wedding becoz geographically again its our neighboring state.Like in Bengli have Kaal-ratri after the actual wedding we have Bahi-Biya where after the wedding when bride comes to grooms house the next day for the whole day nobody can see each others face, for the rest of the day or the next day when the Khuba-Khubuni will take place (Reception at grooms place)the following night is call Subha-Ratri or Madhu-milaan or 1st night πŸ™‚ Typically Yes the story of Beula-Lakhindaar has been believed that how Lakhindar dies after the snake bite on their 1st nyt and how Beula had go through tremendous pain and struggle to return his life back from Death God in West Bengal so being a neighboring state Assam also got influenced by the mythology and also it has been believed that after the wedding if none of the bride and groom can't see each other for one whole day the chemistry sparks basically in arranged marriages and they eagerly waits for the first night where a understandable and compromising life can ahead with love and care. Putting vermilion into brides forehead by MIL is again has significant in Assamese tradition only instead of the groom the grooms mother puts vermilion on brides forehead or some times in absence of MIL any elderly lady do that (aunts ~Grooms) significantly before the Jurun Ceremony where all the gift specially cloths and Jewelries suppose to gift the bride along with the bridal trousseau that she has to wear in actual wedding all these items groom has to touch signifies that "not only I'm marrying u ..but with good grace and god and elders I'm accepting u as my wife and my whole family members and other relatives are welcoming u to our home and family. In jurun ceremony groom can't go or no young men are allowed to go accept very few elderly men from grooms side along with the ladies. Jurun is basically si ladies function. Unlike Saree Mekhela-Sadors are in two pairs. Kabita well written !

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